tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post7873495917791031171..comments2024-02-02T07:13:37.313-06:00Comments on Like Merchant Ships: Blogger coffee, part 3Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger45125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-40315045690456049742007-11-11T09:43:00.000-06:002007-11-11T09:43:00.000-06:00Meredith said, "Kim, I'm surprised to read that. I...Meredith said, <BR/><BR/><I>"Kim, I'm surprised to read that. I'm an extreme introvert who has to push herself to relax in social settings. (Though I could always perform well in particular role or job to do.)<BR/><BR/>If anything, blogging has given me a quiet confidence that has spilled over into the rest of my real life."</I><BR/><BR/>Roberta said, <BR/><BR/><I>"There's Kim! One day I clicked and you were gone. :)<BR/>Interestingly, like Kim, I too am very much an extrovert. Not sure if it's being in the blog-world or just growing older that has me a little more introverted these days...perhaps a season of reflection."</I><BR/><BR/>Meredith, I think what Roberta said is in line with what I'm going through. Being in my mid-40's has definitely affected my outlook on life. I'm definitely more reflective in my "fall season". I'm very aware of how permanent the Internet is and yet how transient. With a good part of the world online now, it strikes me as odd that so many people would want to open their lives up so casually to it. It feels very odd to me that I was willing to be more open to strangers than I was to my own family. And then if my family read my blog, it felt even more strange to me. I feel odd even writing this. See how introverted I've become?? lol<BR/><BR/>(((Roberta))), watch your email!Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07011962056021112099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-46643426128415310552007-11-11T09:41:00.000-06:002007-11-11T09:41:00.000-06:00This comment has been removed by the author.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07011962056021112099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-36116080178394268632007-11-11T01:27:00.000-06:002007-11-11T01:27:00.000-06:00This is completely unrelated to the questions but ...This is completely unrelated to the questions but I just had to say that picture is beautiful!! The colors..the style...I loved it!! ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-75611145646008867212007-11-10T08:53:00.000-06:002007-11-10T08:53:00.000-06:00Interesting question. Remember when the four pers...Interesting question. <BR/><BR/>Remember when the four personality type theory was popular? According to this theory, most people have a dominant personality from among the four types -- choleric, sanguine, melancholy, and phlegmatic -- and a secondary personality from among the four, as well. <BR/><BR/>My DH is dominantly choleric (extrovert) and secondarily phlegmatic (introvert). I am some dominantly melancholy (introvert) and secondarily sanguine (extrovert). So, DH and I joke about our marriage being more exciting because, between the two of us, we have four personalities! <BR/><BR/>As an extrovert/introvert, I need both people time and alone time. For me, blogging is not enough. I have to have in-real-life friends around me. <BR/><BR/>I hate those personality tests that ask, "Would you rather read a book or go to a party?" <BR/><BR/>I don't see the problem here. Just let me have a few minutes in the afternoon to read, and then I'll be right on over to the party, with chips and dip in hand. I won't be the most popular life of the party. But, I will be there. <BR/><BR/>While I am bookish, I also "have mouth, will talk". I'm trying so hard to take hold of James 1:19 -- Be quick to listen and slow to speak.<BR/> <BR/>Of course, I can feel shy. Oddly, I find that I am shyest during the "week before" that time of the month and I'm most outgoing the week after. Does anyone else experience that?<BR/><BR/>I think we call can be shy in certain situations -- even the people who are extrovert/extrovert by nature. But, I don't think that has anything to do with why I blog.<BR/><BR/>In fact, I do have a concern that people will substitute blogging for developing deeper personal relationships. Blogging has opened up a whole new and exciting form of communication. But, it should enhance, rather than take away from, our connection to our family, friends, our church, our neighbors, and our communities.Mimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13429722263321739095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-58396084909258834852007-11-10T04:41:00.000-06:002007-11-10T04:41:00.000-06:00I'm definitely an introvert. Even with jobs in fun...I'm definitely an introvert. Even with jobs in fundraising before staying home with my kids, it's taken me a long time to feel comfortable in social situations. I tend to gravitate towards one-on-one conversations, rather than being part of a large group. However, I'm learning to use my introvertedness to my advantage by choosing women in my life who recognize and appreciate my introvertedness for what it is. <BR/><BR/>Writing on my blog has been a way for me to open myself up and I enjoy writing. I think I communicate better as a writer than in person! I wish I had more time now for writing. There are so many wonderful women bloggers out there who inspire me to think more about who I am and my choices.Barbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00669121691262900780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-71246041288922420872007-11-09T21:35:00.000-06:002007-11-09T21:35:00.000-06:00I was born an introvert.But being the eldest child...I was born an introvert.<BR/><BR/>But being the eldest child of "Relief Agency Workers" (basically a Missionary Kid)... I was forced into so many social situations where I had to perform in an outwardly engaging manner.<BR/><BR/>So I was becoming extroverted. Then a microphone caught fire once when I was singing for a group of Marines who enthusiastically rescued me from my eminent demise.<BR/><BR/>At which point I became painfully introverted. That was in Grade 4.<BR/><BR/>Then I spent years working myself out of that place.<BR/><BR/>I am now an extrovert. Sometimes it doesn't feel natural, and there are definite times where I crave solitude... but I think that has a lot more to do with my role in life than anything else.<BR/><BR/>In my blog... I dunno... I try to very much be honest and forth coming. Mind you, like someone else said... I have a hard time when family reads my blog. Its not that I don't want to hide it from them because I want to be honest with them too... Its just...<BR/><BR/>I dunno... something I think of as sharing with friends and for friends... not someone that I am blood related too!Betty Canuckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08737937884697051244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-41115906824504320742007-11-09T15:00:00.000-06:002007-11-09T15:00:00.000-06:00I'm an introvert, but I enjoy responding to posts....I'm an introvert, but I enjoy responding to posts. In real life, conversations move to quickly for me to formulate responses, but the written word has no deadline.Harperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13976054517657015951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-73424799793371031552007-11-09T14:34:00.000-06:002007-11-09T14:34:00.000-06:00I'm an introvert by nature. I have really worked ...I'm an introvert by nature. I have really worked on my people skills over the years thanks to retail/customer service and teaching jobs. However, I always feel that I express myself best in writing. Blogging gives me that outlet to communicate in my truest, most articulate medium... if that makes any sense. :)mama khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05070909433011566246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-21681772803694307872007-11-09T13:54:00.000-06:002007-11-09T13:54:00.000-06:00Fun question :) I'm an introvert, but I'm friendly...Fun question :) I'm an introvert, but I'm friendly. I force myself to be more extroverted around town because it makes people happy, and we live in a small town... it ends up paying to be friendly when you, er, back your truck into a ditch and need someone to pull you out ;)Carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04253120851598570692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-15014553300585041292007-11-09T13:11:00.001-06:002007-11-09T13:11:00.001-06:00I want to take a test to see what the "experts" sa...I want to take a test to see what the "experts" say about me... <BR/><BR/>But I think I've always been extroverted and I am a big talker.<BR/><BR/>But I've also noticed, since having children and interacting with other moms, I am more nervous and feel more awkward than I used to. So I tend to reign myself in A LOT...<BR/><BR/>Otherwise, I turn into a babbling idiot!<BR/><BR/>Blessings,<BR/>Karla <BR/><BR/>ps - I totally would have described you the way you did up top Meredith - "a quiet confidence". I get the sense that you have a shyness about you, but you totally push through that!!Karla Porter Archerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12852059935122763051noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-39158462368177556972007-11-09T13:11:00.000-06:002007-11-09T13:11:00.000-06:00I'm pretty much an introvert until I'm comfortable...I'm pretty much an introvert until I'm comfortable with a person and then perhaps I'm too open. <BR/>But, I tend to find that I write more personal stuff in my blog that seems almost inappropriate to tell a stranger. In a way it's sort of like a journal for me but one that I let strangers read and would be embarrassed to let my in-laws read.<BR/>My husband's blogs are the same way. He's way more introverted in real life and (imho) too extroverted on his blog. And he knows his father reads those.Jenny's Vegcafehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09822613057446516660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-16808794856157022562007-11-09T13:05:00.000-06:002007-11-09T13:05:00.000-06:00I would have to say I am an introvert by nature. I...I would have to say I am an introvert by nature. I like being alone and don't fade when people are not constantly around. That isn't to say I don't like to be around people. I enjoy getting together with people. I like talking and learning about other people's backgrounds. When I am comfortable, I am a great communicator and can start a converstaion with anyone about anything. <BR/><BR/>I am pretty outgoing and outspoken so my blog represents that. I guess what I am trying to say is I like people, I just don't need people around to feel secure. Does that make sense? :)TracyMichelehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03229503241864939021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-17720802264442969712007-11-09T12:56:00.000-06:002007-11-09T12:56:00.000-06:00I think I am an introvert. However, most people t...I think I am an introvert. However, most people that know me would think that I am an extrovert. I feel that when around people I can do fine conversing and talking - I do fine speaking in public places - and in front of large crowds. It is not that I can not do it - I do it all the time. But, if I had to choose - I would like to be at home all by myself or with my family - rather than in a crowd of people or intermingling with others at social affairs. I hate social affairs. If I have to choose to be with people - I would rather be in a bigger crowd than one on one. Does any of this make any sense?!! Interesting thought though - do we introverts use the blogland as our way of expressing ourselves? I would think yes, perhaps. <BR/><BR/>Love the coffee chat. Thanks Merideth<BR/><BR/>~JaneMarthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02140356627632637515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-47149333360179807162007-11-09T12:36:00.000-06:002007-11-09T12:36:00.000-06:00I have to agree with almost everyone else that's l...I have to agree with almost everyone else that's left a comment!<BR/><BR/>I am a really big introvert...most of the time. I go through spurts where I want to be left alone for months without any contact with anyone except my immediate family and then there are times when I'd really like some social interaction. I think blogging has definately made me a more extroverted person...at least online :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-32764094470093257842007-11-09T11:44:00.000-06:002007-11-09T11:44:00.000-06:00How this for ya? I'm a social extrovert and an emo...How this for ya? I'm a social extrovert and an emotional introvert. I have a lot of both <A HREF="http://www.personalitypage.com/ENFP.html" REL="nofollow">ENFP</A> and <A HREF="http://www.personalitypage.com/ESFJ.html" REL="nofollow">ENFJ</A> characteristic. How I feel physically determines whether I'm more P or J. But I'm unquestionably ESF.<BR/><BR/>Over the years I've learned to follow through to project completion. It's a good thing. I won't say I'm the life of the party and have to be the center of attention, but let's just say I gerenally have a lot of fun and so does most everyone else. But! If something makes me emotionally uncomfortable, I get really quiet and have to process it alone or talk it out with someone I trust until it's resolved.<BR/><BR/>Although I'm as open IRL, what you read on my blog is the Reader's Digest condensed version of my drama, struggles and lessons learned. I would never get up from the computer if I wrote ALL the details! Be thankful. lol <BR/><BR/>So when does one qualify as popular? Is it daily reader numbers? Links? RSS feeds? Is there a magic number? I might be getting close. ;)Janelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10449455434527590302noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-20184716807034324362007-11-09T11:15:00.000-06:002007-11-09T11:15:00.000-06:00IRL I'm midway between the 2 extremes. However, w...IRL I'm midway between the 2 extremes. However, when it comes to my IL's reading my blog, I feel totally invaded. They somehow got the link, and now they are always calling me. I don't really want them to have all my deep inner thoughts that I only share with complete strangers... :DJennifer @ Fruit of My Handshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11479983078312955832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-65737121529833205642007-11-09T10:30:00.000-06:002007-11-09T10:30:00.000-06:00I am definitely introverted. I score an ISFJ on t...I am definitely introverted. I score an ISFJ on the Meyers-Brigg test. I have to say that I am very shy in real life until I get to know someone, and that it truly takes lots of time for anyone to really know me well enough to know what I am thinking or how I feel on anything. I have been diagnosed with Social Anxiety disorder and was taking medications for that, although to be honest I have taken myself off the meds recently. I find that it is much easier to talk to people online through blogs and e-mail and that I am much more likely to post more online than I would ever approach in person. And my closest friends would tell you that to really know what I'm thinking that you would want to read my e-mails because I am still guarded in my actions and sharing my feelings in person, but in my e-mails and blogs that you can really see the deepest thoughts and feelings that I carry.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13110917830037408321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-79245579580039254672007-11-09T09:08:00.000-06:002007-11-09T09:08:00.000-06:00Sorry I'm a little late...http://www.familymusings...Sorry I'm a little late...<BR/>http://www.familymusings.com/2007/11/blogger-coffee-part-3.html<BR/><BR/>Oh, and you can take an abbreviated version of the Meyers-Brigg Personality Type Indicator test here:<BR/>http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm<BR/><BR/>Be warned though... it is a long test (72 questions). I think knowing and understanding your type can really help you in ministry too. This type of test, while not meant to put me in a box, helped me to understand how God made me and to accept that. I also read the type profiles of people close to me and it helped me appreciate their God-given personality strengths instead of focusing on their weaknesses.Jenniferhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01333931458796397707noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-1543771065542970052007-11-09T08:45:00.000-06:002007-11-09T08:45:00.000-06:00Where do you find the online test? I'd be interest...Where do you find the online test? I'd be interested in taking it for the fun of it. I think I know myself - ha! - but I'd like to know what the "expert" opinion is. :)Laurahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02730536602852562913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-15471865439124383452007-11-09T08:04:00.000-06:002007-11-09T08:04:00.000-06:00I am exactly 50/50. I tend towards being a shy ext...I am exactly 50/50. I tend towards being a shy extrovert. I am REALLY shy when I'm in a new situation, but after I'm comfortable I can be hyper and outgoing. But, too much people will wear me down - I need some alone time. And vice versa.<BR/><BR/>How this comes across blogging? Well I am less shy about commenting on new blogs than I would be about talking to new people. I am also more likely to say what I'm thinking, because I have a chance to think through it instead of having to respond at the moment.<BR/><BR/>I think where I am in my personal life affects my blogging. When I am lonely, I blog more frequently and visit new blogs more (using blogging to satisfy my need for friendships). If I have a lot of people, I tend to blog less and stick to my "core reading" list.ashleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982050095869237882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-48668299754863304852007-11-09T07:45:00.000-06:002007-11-09T07:45:00.000-06:00It's interesting to read people's comments. Seems...It's interesting to read people's comments. Seems as though many people feel like I do. Deep down, I am an introvert...I enjoy being alone, I dread walking into a room full of people I don't know (what if they don't like me?!), and I abhor public speaking of any sort.<BR/><BR/>But, in my job, and even in my personal life...that's not really allowed. So, I play my guitar and sing (in public!), I greet new people as though they are going to be my friend, I talk to people in the grocery line (because I know its good to be friendly) and I have just taken on a volunteer role with a ministry that will require me to stand in front of people and speak for 15 minutes at a time.<BR/><BR/>But, I'd usually rather be home reading!<BR/><BR/>Blessings to you all...this is fun!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-11137208226074241252007-11-09T07:40:00.000-06:002007-11-09T07:40:00.000-06:00What a fun post to start the day with! Thanks, Me...What a fun post to start the day with! Thanks, Meredith. <BR/><BR/>If I'm talking with someone one on one, I can talk for hours, but if I'm in a group of about seven or more, I clam up because I can't "read" (feel) what everyone is thinking. <BR/><BR/>When I first started e-groups, I was afraid to contribute. Now I blog nearly every day. I still worry about the comments I leave on other people's blogs, but not in my own "home" (blog). <BR/><BR/>I think when I blog, now, I am writing to one person...not any one specific person I know who might read it, but to the individual YOU, whoever you may be. I may miss the mark on your interests or views, but I share anyway. I think that's how the online presence has affected my introvert/extrovertness. :) <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I'll take decaf but I won't sleep well, but that's okay, cuz I'll be jazzed from the discussion anyway. :)Simple Faith and Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09963791921016417189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-35901882574271002802007-11-09T07:39:00.000-06:002007-11-09T07:39:00.000-06:00What a fun post to start the day with! Thanks, Me...What a fun post to start the day with! Thanks, Meredith. <BR/><BR/>If I'm talking with someone one on one, I can talk for hours, but if I'm in a group of about seven or more, I clam up because I can't "read" (feel) what everyone is thinking. <BR/><BR/>When I first started e-groups, I was afraid to contribute. Now I blog nearly every day. I still worry about the comments I leave on other people's blogs, but not in my own "home" (blog). <BR/><BR/>I think when I blog, now, I am writing to one person...not any one specific person I know who might read it, but to the individual YOU, whoever you may be. I may miss the mark on your interests or views, but I share anyway. I think that's how the online presence has affected my introvert/extrovertness. :) <BR/><BR/>Oh, and I'll take decaf but I won't sleep well, but that's okay, cuz I'll be jazzed from the discussion anyway. :)Simple Faith and Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09963791921016417189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-11737103584033043202007-11-09T07:12:00.000-06:002007-11-09T07:12:00.000-06:00To be clear, I meant inTROverted-ness. I'm not ups...<I>To be clear, I meant inTROverted-ness. I'm not upside-down :) </I>Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12937512054883534573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-12364613.post-64125766535572245342007-11-09T07:08:00.000-06:002007-11-09T07:08:00.000-06:00I'm introverted, for sure- ISTJ, all the way!I've ...I'm introverted, for sure- <A HREF="http://www.personalitypage.com/ISTJ.html" REL="nofollow">ISTJ</A>, all the way!<BR/><BR/>I've found my inverted-ness comes out not as much on my blog, where I'm not afraid to talk or say what I want, but in my willingness to comment on other blogs (The "social interaction" aspect of the blogosphere). I've always pictured those readers who comment all over and join in conversations everywhere as the extroverts. Me, I use the same excuses I use 'in real life' - "What I have to say won't be beneficial to the conversation" or "I shouldn't bother them"Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12937512054883534573noreply@blogger.com